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Community Guidelines


Please Protect Your Privacy Online


YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS WILL BE VISIBLE TO OTHER GROUP MEMBERS.  Please use an email that protects your identity, remove signatures, phone numbers, etc. that reveal personal information.  Try using a simple username/alias, so that users may get to know one another while maintaining privacy. For example, use a first name, initials, or a nickname, but not your full first and last name, like,, or

Privacy, confidentiality, and anonymity are important to peer support.  Some are comfortable sharing their identity online because cyberspace feels anonymous enough, but it is strongly discouraged for minors, despite the privacy and confidentiality policies of this group.  Also consider the possibility that someone you know joins this group in the future.  You may feel unexpectedly exposed.  It may also have a chilling effect on someone else who is not ready to share.  Please note, for your safety and confidentiality, moderators will remove identifying information including location regarding minors.



Peer Groups Cannot Provide Therapy

Your peers are not mental health professionals and cannot replace personal healthcare.  Support groups cannot cure, treat, or offer mental health services of any kind.  Please contact your physician or a licensed professional.  Warmlines can also be very helpful when you need to talk to someone right away.  To find one serving your area:



MYCOHP is not an advice column

Peer groups are for support, not advice.  You alone are responsible for acting on ideas exchanged here by peers.  Please remember this whenever seeking opinions and feedback.  We encourage sharing insights, experiences, and resources to help each other understand and cope with the difficult and isolating experience of growing up in a hoarded home.  Freedom from the burdens of shame, secrecy, and self-doubt can offer great relief.

You are not alone and many have been exactly where you are right now.  Many of us developed a ‘fix it bug’ to cope with family problems.  Advice can often (unintentionally) come across as (an implicit) judgment, so we encourage you to share your experience and feelings.  Offering suggestions, and asking questions, particularly about how to look at something, can be more helpful than telling someone else what to do.  Everyone is at a different point in his or her journey.  Often, we must reach a conclusion for ourselves and no amount of well-intended advice can help us, but hearing how you handled a similar situation might be very eye-opening and even work wonders!




Thanks to Sébastien Goldberg @sebastiengoldberg for making this photo available freely on Unsplash